to a distant (but close) friend......

    In the most respectfull and coutious tone i can muster.... I wanna post this link...

My friend's homicide 

... you see, I worked with her.... not directly... but as an aquaintance... A victim of the most extreme form of domestic abuse....

     it's hard for me... I'm going to her service tomorrow.... but please read my letter to her son....  I hope to GOD it brings healing to him... Please give me your thoughts.... and please, be sensitive... family may read this...

   "Dear Mike, 

          It's funny how who someone barely even touched (albeit grazed) your life can affect you... I worked with her... sort of... in the next building over, sure... I knew her, though in a fairly superficial sense but in the last couple of days.... a piece was missing... I felt a tangible *absence* at work amongst my work family... and in my heart, too... You see, I feel for both her and everyone I left behind, sure, but in the descriptions and memories of those who knew her, my heart aches for not having the opportunity to get to know her better... and it makes me want to even that much more express how I feel about those who she left behind... my friends... my colleagues.... and my fellow human beings....   

the world ain't that small after all... and in a weird way, I wanna thank you Shawna, for making me realize that... The hole in my heart that you left on your departure from this world may just well be an opening to let not one, but many people in... You will not be forgotten... ...

and to Bill... May God give you the peace that may have escaped you in life... I can't speak for you man, but you too are a wake up call for me... there are many in pain out there.... christ knows I'm one of 'em... but if I could have been the guy to stop.. or at least diminish your pain... I dunno.... in a small way, I think I, as a member of your community, have failed you too.... 

...And to those left behind.... you are not alone... EVER!!!.... Read this page and NEVER forget it! ...

.......so maybe it's not superficial after all.... From now on, I'll hug my family a little tighter, take life a little lighter, and maybe take a chance and let the words " I love you" fly a little more freely from my lips...
Yours, 
-m"

Please, guys.... take this as a call for basic human sympathy... and not for a forum of judgment.... My fucking heart is breaking, for the whole family... Please keep any snide remarks private.... Thanks, luv's....
-m



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see her as I knew her.....

 

goodbye, my friend.....